The art of finding the perfect balance
Sometimes the only thing standing between us and a happier relationship is ourselves. Relationships can be hard, and self-sabotage in that context isn't always easy to recognize. When self-sabotage happens, it often stems from issues related to insecurity, communication, and trust. And it's likely something you've been dealing with for a very long time.
Learning to recognize self-sabotage in relationships can help you see where the healing may need to take place, thus bettering your relationship as well.
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Cheating isn’t always pure lust. A person may cheat to either consciously or unconsciously end the relationship, especially if they feel they don’t deserve love or their partner.
Lack of commitment happens when the relationship progresses and titles like boyfriend or fiancée are natural, but you won't say the words or commit to any deeper feelings.
Holding grudges is common relationship sabotaging behavior, which often stems from your own insecurity and feelings of inferiority.
A number of self-sabotaging behaviors involve not communicating clearly or openly, which can be very damaging to the relationship.
"Mind-reading" involves making assumptions about what someone else is feeling, or assuming they’ll understand you without open communication. This is ultimately the major cause of misunderstandings in relationships.
Passive-aggressive behavior can come from a part of you that’s afraid or uncomfortable with experiencing the negative emotions of confrontation. This can lead to misunderstandings and confusion between the couple.
Gratitude is an important factor of relationship longevity. When you withhold gratitude, deliberately or subconsciously, you’re signaling to your partner that they’re being taken for granted.
Holding your partner to an unachievable standard is another way to set yourself up for failure. When your unreasonable expectations aren’t met, you might convince yourself the relationship isn’t working.
If you have difficulty opening up emotionally, it can make it challenging for your partner to connect with you on a deeper level. This can result in feelings of loneliness and a lack of intimacy.
Self-sabotage in a relationship can be abusive. Especially if it involves gaslighting, manipulation, ignoring boundaries, and physical violence.
Constant negativity and complaining can be very tiresome and off-putting to the other person. Ultimately, it’s just as easy to concentrate on the positive as it is to focus on what’s wrong.
Anyone who feels continuously second-guessed, or that their partner assumes the worst, won't stay around for long. In a healthy relationship, your partner shouldn’t have to constantly earn your trust.
Intimacy is crucial in a healthy relationship. When you start running away from important conversations and make excuses not to have intimacy, you might be sabotaging your relationship.
If you constantly discuss or complain about the person who came before your present partner, you'll likely leave a negative impression. It's time to move on.
If you have self-esteem issues, it’s time to get the help you need. Your problems aren't your partner’s responsibility.
Romance doesn't have to end after you've been together a while. Maintaining a relationship is also about keeping the romance alive and making your partner feel loved.
When a person has had prior bad experiences, this is often the case. As a result, you may believe that you don’t deserve your partner, or that something is wrong.
It may seem like a good idea to participate in your partner’s interests, until you eventually confess that you despise those activities. Pretending to be someone you're not will only be tiring, and a lie for everyone involved.
There needs to be more of an effort to see your partner and spend time with them. Quality time is an important part of any relationship dynamic.
Focusing on your partner's imperfections and being unable to see the good in them is a major red flag. This is often a sign that you're trying to drive a wedge between yourself and your partner.
You may be wanting more alone time, but find yourself withholding that need because of fear or insecurity. This can eventually lead to grudges and passive-aggressive behavior. It’s better to communicate openly.
People expect everything to go perfectly all the time. But when you feel disappointed, it’s best to communicate with your partner rather than to cut ties suddenly.
A big sign of self-sabotage is if you're putting all your energy into work, your hobbies, or the other people in your life.
It’s easy to overlook your significant other just because you're in a relationship. But if you do so, you're on the fastest road to sabotaging your relationship.
If you regularly break promises regarding what time you'll be home or when you'll be spending quality time, this could mean that your partner will eventually resent you.
Refusing to speak to someone in your life out of anger, or to teach them a lesson, is extremely toxic. It can be very harmful to any relationship.
There's no universal cause when it comes to self-sabotaging in relationships. However, learned behaviors, attachment style, or past experiences are factors that tend to factor in.
There's no universal cause when it comes to self-sabotaging in relationships. However, learned behaviors, attachment style, or past experiences are factors that tend to factor in.
Healing the underlying causes of self-sabotage is the first step toward eliminating these behaviors. So don't hesitate to seek the help of a mental health professional.
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Sometimes the only thing standing between us and a happier relationship is ourselves. Relationships can be hard, and self-sabotage in that context isn't always easy to recognize. When self-sabotage happens, it often stems from issues related to insecurity, communication, and trust. And it's likely something you've been dealing with for a very long time.
Learning to recognize self-sabotage in relationships can help you see where the healing may need to take place, thus bettering your relationship as well.
Want to know more? Then click through the following gallery.