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A love bomber may drag their exes' names through the mud, even describing previous partners as abusive, when in reality they were the abusers.
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Finally, love bombers never take responsibility for their previous relationships. If you ask about why one of their previous relationships failed, it was always the other person’s fault.
The purpose of this anger is to distract you from their love bombing behavior, since even the slightest criticism can expose their true, cruel intentions.
Bear in mind that it is healthy to spend time away from your partner, and if they are always asking where you are and who you’re with, it is a clear red flag for love bombing.
People who love bomb also tend to lash out when criticized for their behavior. Narcissists may even fly into a narcissistic rage.
This is a tactic that love bombers often use to control their partners and avoid taking any real responsibility for their actions.
The sad truth about love bombers is that, deep down, they don’t care about you. As a result, they won’t respect your boundaries and will do whatever it takes to get what they want.
If you have a bad argument, a common tactic of love bombers is to steer the conversation towards the idea that ultimately you guys are great together.
Bear in mind that your boundaries are in place to keep you healthy and safe, but a love bomber will ignore them provided their actions serve their own agenda.
At its core, love bombing is about control, and in order to exercise that control a love bomber will want to know exactly where you are all the time.
In addition to showering you with gifts, a love bomber may shower you with compliments. If you are being love bombed, you can be expect to be complimented all the time.
While compliments are great, in this context they can feel insincere because they are coming towards you at all times and from all directions.
Jealousy in relationships is common, and a little is not always harmful. Persistent and intense jealousy, however, is manipulative and can be very destructive.
While gift giving can be an expression of love, it can also be used as a manipulation tool. Sometimes people give gifts in the hope that others will feel indebted.
Extreme jealousy is another love bombing trait. Not only does the person get upset when you spend time with others, but they don’t like it when you work or pursue your hobbies either.
Clinginess is often a result of insecurity, and love bombers want to make sure that even if you are not physically with them, they still have your undivided attention.
Another characteristic of love bombers is that they want to spend every minute with you. When they’re with you they are clingy, and when they’re away from you they text or call non-stop.
Lavish gifts are another favorite of people who love bomb. Of course, we all like to receive presents, but love bombers’ gifts tend to be over the top to the point that it’s awkward.
They might remind you of their love in every conversation, or post all about it on social media. Declarations may get more intense as the relationship goes on.
Of course, healthy relationships can move at different paces. If you feel constantly pressured to commit when you’re not ready, however, you should see it as a red flag.
Love bombers also tend to make very intense declarations of love. They might say you are soulmates on the second date, for example, or tell you that they can’t live without you.
Over time, however, this can start to feel a little disingenuous. After all, real love isn’t perfect, no matter how perfect a love bomber strives to be.
People who love bomb are generally very insecure and this constant validation serves to boost their fragile self-esteem. It can be very exhausting.
Next up is pressure to commit. Someone who love bombs will probably be ready to make things official very quickly, and they may pressure you into feeling the same.
Love bombers often have a high level of social intelligence, and they are often able to say the right thing at the right time. At the beginning, their ability to comfort you can feel like a rare gift.
Another hallmark of love bombers is that they look for constant validation. No matter how much you compliment them, it will never be enough.
By sharing this private information with you, love bombers attempt to establish empathy and closeness. They want you to feel closer to them than you really are.
Similarly, a love bomber may share lots of their own personal details with you far too quickly. You could find out all their childhood trauma on your second date, for example.
A common trait of love bombers is that they want to know everything about you straight away. They may bombard you with questions to the point where you feel uncomfortable.
At first it might seem like the person is just really into you, but in reality they are looking for sensitive information that they can then use to manipulate you further down the line.
Love bombing happens when you meet someone and they use a variety of tactics to lure you into, and keep you in, a relationship. It can happen at any stage of a relationship, but it tends to be more common when two people have just met. Indeed, love bombing behavior can be difficult to detect early on, but there are definitely things you can look out for.
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Love bombing happens when you meet someone and they use a variety of tactics to lure you into, and keep you in, a relationship. It can happen at any stage of a relationship, but it tends to be more common when two people have just met. Indeed, love bombing behavior can be difficult to detect early on, but there are definitely things you can look out for.
Curious? Check out this gallery to find out more.