Art, obsession, and identity
First up we have the Avoider. This archetype struggles to commit to any one person and will often feel uncomfortable unless they can see a way out of their relationship.
Often, people who align with this archetype have been hurt in the past and are reluctant to commit to someone fully out of fear of history repeating itself.
Next up we have the Pleaser. The Pleasers among us are those who put the needs of their other half above their own, often to the point of fault.
Pleasers often sacrifice their own hopes and dreams if it will make others happy. And they don’t stop at their partners either, they’ll often do it for other family members too.
If you are a Pleaser yourself, it is important to take a step back every now and again and consider whether you are properly taking your own needs into account.
If you are in a relationship with a Pleaser, make sure you are not taking advantage of their giving nature, and be sure to help them with their own self-compassion.
The Controller is probably the most troubling of the relationship archetypes. As the name suggests, Controllers enjoy being in charge and will always put themselves first.
In a relationship, a Controller can end up manipulating their partner’s decisions and actions in their quest for control. It may not always be intentional.
The Worrier is one of the more contradictory archetypes. On the one hand, Worriers are often distracted by things that may never happen; they really struggle with uncertainty.
On the other hand, people who align with this archetype tend to be quite good in a crisis, since they are at their best when they are busy.
If you are dating a Worrier, bear in mind that they will need a lot of reassurance and security. They will also probably want to be the planner in the relationship.
Unsurprisingly, there are few sides to dating an Anchor. It is important to remember they won’t be taken for granted, however.
If you are dating an Anchor, be sure to acknowledge and be respectful of whatever they bring to the relationship.
Next up we have the Soloist, the fiercely independent archetype. When in a relationship, the Soloist needs a lot of space.
Soloists are those people who, despite being in love, need plenty of time to themselves to enjoy their friends, hobbies, and activities independent of the relationship.
If you are a Soloist and are dating someone who is not, keep in mind that you may need to compromise sometimes and put their needs above your own.
The problem with Supporters is that they often have a fair amount of worry and anxiety bubbling just below the surface.
If you are dating a Supporter, you could consider taking some time to help your partner access this side of themselves.
And finally, the Chameleon. This is another tricky archetype to date because they are always changing their opinions and behavior according to their current feelings.
Dating such a changeable person is difficult because you never know what to expect. Just like Controllers, it is advisable to proceed with caution when it comes to Chameleons.
Sources: (Daily Mail) (Medium)
Anchors manage to be independent without being cold; they are always open to discussion and can see both sides of any argument.
If you are dating a Soloist and you’re not one yourself, don’t be afraid to ask to spend more time together, although certainly not all the time.
Controlling behavior should be treated as a red flag whether you see it in yourself or your partner. It is generally not conducive to a fulfilling relationship.
Ever wondered why you seem to fall into the same behavioral patterns when in a relationship? According to certain psychologists, much of it may be determined by your relationship archetype.
Understanding which archetype you and your partner best align with can help you to understand why you behave in a certain way.
Curious? Check out this gallery to find out more.
Discovering relationship archetypes
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LIFESTYLE Psychology
Ever wondered why you seem to fall into the same behavioral patterns when in a relationship? According to certain psychologists, much of it may be determined by your relationship archetype.
Understanding which archetype you and your partner best align with can help you to understand why you behave in a certain way.
Curious? Check out this gallery to find out more.