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Glass children often come across as very mature and hyper independent. They often receive praise for being self-reliant and not causing any trouble.
As a result, they may start assuming certain care-giving responsibilities and therefore miss out on important normal childhood activities and experiences.
Growing up as a glass child can cause feelings of isolation and loneliness, and there are some studies that show glass children are more prone to mental health disorders, such as anxiety and depression.
Unfortunately, this can make it difficult for glass children to reach out when they need support, and they often struggle with perfectionism and setting boundaries.
First coined by Alicia Maples in her 2010 TED Talk, and then repopularized recently on TikTok, the term "glass child" refers to the sibling of a child who has a major disability or illness.
As a result, they may be concerned with appearing problem-free and therefore feel anxious about matters such as performing well at school.
"Glass" refers to the way in which parents of a disabled child may "see through" the needs of their other child, since they only have eyes for the disabled child’s needs.
One of the key characteristics of a glass child is perfectionism. This stems from the child’s recognition that their parents are already under a huge amount of stress.
These children often grow up with their needs consistently unmet, because their parents are too busy caring for and meeting the needs of their more disadvantaged sibling.
Glass children may also feel that they have to take on more responsibilities than other children their own age, simply because they are more capable than their disabled sibling.
It is important that you don’t let your child’s independence and capable nature convince you nothing is wrong. Often, this is just a coping mechanism.
Next up, make sure to spend enough quality time with your child. Ideally, they should get at least 30 minutes of one-on-one time per day, and one longer activity or event per week.
Glass children are often hyper-independent; they learn to fend for themselves early on while their parents are preoccupied with their sibling.
This might mean that they handle tasks such as making their own food very young, or they deal with emotional or social dilemmas without parental guidance.
This can mean that they don’t celebrate important milestones in their lives, such as getting married, or even feel happy about simpler things, such as landing a great job.
During your quality time together, reassure your child that they are loved and that making a mistake or having a bad day would never change that.
As a result, glass children are normally the first to give in to others’ demands and they often put the well-being and needs of others above their own.
If you are the parent of a glass child, there are things you can do to help ensure they are happy and healthy. First up, acknowledge that your child may not be a strong as they appear.
Another common characteristic of glass children is people-pleasing. They often grow up believing that by expressing their own needs they will only ‘rock the boat.’
Finally, do your best to encourage a healthy sibling relationship between your children. Time together should be about fun, not care-giving obligations.
For example, you might leave them a little note, or have a daily bedtime ritual. These small actions really help kids feel secure.
There are also plenty of resources out there for people in this situation, although the best resource for a glass child is a secure attachment with at least one of their parents.
Sources: (Verywell Mind) (WikiHow)
See also: A parent's guide to raising emotionally intelligent children
It is also a good idea to talk about the siblings’ future together. Often, glass children worry about what will happen when you are no longer able to take care of their sibling.
Remind your glass child that they have no obligation to be a caregiver to their sibling, but that, any time they want, they can be their friend.
Try to talk about the future in concrete terms and let them know they have options. It is important that your child feels they have control over their own future.
You should also show your child how important they are to you whenever you have the opportunity. Ideally you would remind them of that at least once per day.
You might say something like, "I know I’m busy, but I’m not too busy for you. If there is something on your mind, please come and speak to me about it."
Being the parent or sibling of a disabled or sick child can be very challenging for all involved. However, it is important to remember that there is help available.
Indeed, it is very important to verbalize the lessons that you want your child to learn. If you see them internalizing and staying quiet about their needs, speak up.
If you've been on TikTok recently, you may have heard people referring to "glass child syndrome." But the term was actually first used in a TED Talk all the way back in 2010. "Glass child" refers to children who grow up in the shadows of their disabled or unwell sibling(s). Often these children come across as very mature and independent, but they may well struggle with issues such as perfectionism and being unable to set boundaries.
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If you've been on TikTok recently, you may have heard people referring to "glass child syndrome." But the term was actually first used in a TED Talk all the way back in 2010. "Glass child" refers to children who grow up in the shadows of their disabled or unwell sibling(s). Often these children come across as very mature and independent, but they may well struggle with issues such as perfectionism and being unable to set boundaries.
Curious? Check out this gallery to find out more.