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The concept of counting our blessings, i.e. taking some time to reflect on the positive things in our lives, has been around for a very long time.
The idea that counting our blessings could be positive for our mood and general well-being was around long before it was scientifically proven.
The trial involved 577 participants who were all assigned to different groups. The placebo group was asked to spend some time every day writing about their early childhood memories.
One of those groups was asked to write a list of three things that had gone well for them each day, and what had caused them to go well.
In order to test the impact of these various exercises on the participants' moods over the next few months, all the volunteers were given a scale to measure their happiness.
In the group that was asked to list three good things, participants began to show improvements in their happiness levels within the first month.
Meanwhile, in the placebo group, participants showed a brief spike in happiness within the first week, but then their mood returned to the baseline level.
Psychologists believe that counting our blessings can help boost our mood, because it encourages us to counteract the very human tendency that is negativity bias.
However, in the modern world, the tendency to focus on the negative can be overwhelming. By counting our blessings, we can help ease that burden.
As previously mentioned, there are various mood-boosting strategies that have counting blessings as their core concept. A good one to try is the Three Good Things practice.
To get started with Three Good Things, start by making time. Set an intention to practice journaling for a few minutes every day for at least two weeks.
When you're ready for your practice, grab a pen and paper and write down three good things that you noticed during the day, how they made you feel, and why you think they happened.
Remember that anything counts, i.e. the events you choose can be as significant or insignificant as you like. Don't worry about grammar or spelling either—just write as it comes.
And, finally, remember to reflect. After two weeks, take some time to consider whether making a daily list of three good things has had a positive effect on your life.
In order to get the most out of your Three Good Things practice, there are certain tips to bear in mind. Firstly, remember that the goal is not to stifle negative feelings through toxic positivity.
Rather, the aim with practicing Three Good Things is to acknowledge and care for difficult emotions, by recognizing that there is also good in the world.
Instead, aim to acknowledge those negative experiences and then refocus your mind on the positive experiences. And don't worry if you miss a day—just pick it up again tomorrow.
If you are a manager or team leader, you may like to use this exercise with your team. If so, it is important that you first check the emotional pulse of your team members.
Whether practiced in an individual or group context, there is no guarantee that the Three Good Things strategy will have a positive effect. However, given that it is very low cost and at the same time low risk, it may be worth a shot.
Sources: (BBC) (University of Utah)
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The phrase "count your blessings" is one you have probably heard multiple times in your life. You may have even offered it up as a piece of advice to someone else. As with many of those age-old phrases, it may be tempting to dismiss "count your blessings" as just one of those things people say. According to research, however, counting our blessings can actually have real benefits for our overall mental health.
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The phrase "count your blessings" is one you have probably heard multiple times in your life. You may have even offered it up as a piece of advice to someone else. As with many of those age-old phrases, it may be tempting to dismiss "count your blessings" as just one of those things people say. According to research, however, counting our blessings can actually have real benefits for our overall mental health.
Curious? Check out this gallery to find out more.