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Personal hygiene is a major one for most people. An unpleasant body odor can really pull you out of a moment of passion! Or smelly feet once the shoes come off…
Sometimes when we’re with the same partner for a long time, things can get a bit repetitive. That’s normal and natural, but if your partner isn’t willing to hear your concerns and try something new, then it’s an even bigger mood killer.
Another issue some women report is that men often feel like they need to be super athletic and constantly change positions in bed. This might be another strange habit they learned online, which is perhaps better for entertainment purposes than real life.
On the other hand, if you want to see your partner in all their glory and don’t care about their perceived imperfections, it can be frustrating that they always want the lights off. How about a compromise then? Candlelight!
Many women have reported experiences with male partners who don’t respect their boundaries. Whether they want their partner to do something new or are asking to do it without protection, the first “no” should be enough. It’s uncomfortable and annoying if they keep asking “are you sure you don’t want to try?” Needless to say, it’s a major turnoff.
Many people report that allowing pets in the bedroom is a big turnoff. Someone who lets their cat or dog sleep on their bed is likely to have a lot of animal hair around, which not everyone can get used to.
The same goes for hygiene in the home. If the bedroom is a pigsty and their sheets haven’t been washed since they moved out of their mother’s house, it’s both gross and a major red flag for the future!
When your partner seems to have learned all their moves from watching adult movies online, it never ends well. Whether it’s over-the-top screaming and moaning, or jack-hammer moves, the performance does not get five stars.
There’s no worse surprise than getting to the point of disrobing and discovering that your partner has long, jagged talons for toenails. Get thee to a nail salon and get thyself a pedicure!
In heteronormative circles, a man’s nails are expected to be short and clean. It’s one thing to shake up the binary and go for a more daring nail look, but if they're simply too long because of a lack of grooming, it’s not a good look.
If you’re going for a romantic dinner and are hoping to get lucky, don’t order the garlic bread.
Sex sometimes comes with a set menu, and when the man has finished his dessert, it’s over, even if their partner has barely finished their starter. If one partner has a tendency to finish early, it doesn’t have to be a big deal as long as everyone has a chance to enjoy themselves!
What’s worse, though, is when the pet is allowed in the bedroom while you’re getting busy! No one wants to look down in a moment of passion and see a judgmental old tabby cat giving them the stink eye.
For many people, sex starts long before they get to the bedroom. There are things that can happen on dates or in your daily life at home that make it very difficult to get in the mood.
If you’re in a long-term relationship and your partner isn’t pulling their weight, it can leave you feeling underappreciated and resentful. It’s pretty difficult to overlook those feelings and get to a place of affection and intimacy.
Sources: (Marie Claire) (Insider) (Everyday Health)
A little bit of dirty talk never hurt anyone, but if it’s constant (particularly if you don’t like what they’re saying) then it can really ruin the experience.
There’s another way that too much talking can be a problem in the bedroom, but this usually affects long-term relationships more. One partner might bring up a totally unrelated issue while you’re in the middle of doing the deed, like who’s going to pick the kids up from school tomorrow. Not good!
The issue of turning the lights on or off is a contentious one, and can be a turnoff regardless of which option you prefer. Some people prefer to go with the lights off so they can enjoy themselves more without worrying about their body insecurities. Having a partner who insists on turning them on could certainly kill the vibe and make you feel less comfortable.
If you’re not fully enjoying yourself and your partner doesn’t notice, it’s not a great feeling. It’s a sign that they’re not being attentive, and also perhaps that you’re not feeling comfortable enough with them to communicate about it. Thumbs down all around.
When you’re with someone and you can feel that they’re worrying about how they look, the issue is not their physical appearance, it’s the fact that they’re not fully present and not fully enjoying themselves. Unfortunately, that’s a big turnoff.
Someone who expects to have it all but doesn’t return the favor or seem interested in your pleasure—thank you, next.
Have you ever been in bed with someone and caught them looking at the clock? Or perhaps they insist on stopping to check their phone when they hear it buzz. That’s a definite sign that they're not exactly getting lost in the moment.
On that same note, many people get turned off by tobacco breath or the smell of smoke on someone's hair and clothes.
If you’ve made it as far as the bedroom without any red flags, well done! However, if one partner just doesn’t seem that into it, it kind of takes the wind out of the sails.
On the other hand, keeping your socks on won’t help the problem! Being totally naked except for a pair of socks is just not a good look…
Talking about an ex on a first date is usually not a good move, but if they come up in bedroom conversation, that’s so much worse! It’s good to communicate about sex, but try not to reference specific past experiences. “My ex really liked it when…” is not a good way to start a sentence!
We all have things that get us going and things that instantly kill the mood. Some of these triggers are weirdly specific and unique to us, but some are pretty common. Through a combination of surveys and online comments, we've come up with some of the most common turnoffs that crop up in both serious relationships and one-night stands.
Click through the following gallery to discover some of the biggest turnoffs encountered in the bedroom! Are you guilty of any of these bad habits?
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We all have things that get us going and things that instantly kill the mood. Some of these triggers are weirdly specific and unique to us, but some are pretty common. Through a combination of surveys and online comments, we've come up with some of the most common turnoffs that crop up in both serious relationships and one-night stands.
Click through the following gallery to discover some of the biggest turnoffs encountered in the bedroom! Are you guilty of any of these bad habits?