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Listen more -

Being charismatic is about making people think they are important. A good way to achieve this is to always listen more than you talk.

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Make sure you listen actively and you engage with what the other person is saying. Ask questions, maintain eye contact, and try not to give advice unless explicitly asked.

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Charismatic people always listen to what the other person has to say, no matter that person’s perceived importance or station. They never practice selective hearing.

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If you want to be more charismatic, make sure that you don’t ignore what another person says just because you think that person is beneath you. Listen to everyone equally.

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Be present -

Be sure to put away any device that might distract you while you are talking to someone. You cannot connect with someone properly if half of your attention is elsewhere.

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Put away your phone, and stop glancing at your monitor. People so rarely give other people their full attention, so if you do people will remember it and value you for it.

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Be generous -

A key characteristic of charismatic people is that they are always ready to give, no matter whether they will get anything in return. They are incredibly giving.

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Rather than focusing on what you can get out of another person and your relationship with them, think instead about what you can give. Generosity is a great way to establish connection.

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A surefire way to be uncharismatic is to act self-important. Having a pretentious attitude is impressive to no one (except perhaps other pretentious and self-important people).

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If you want to be charismatic, be sure to rid yourself of any traces of this attitude. Be gracious and remember that you are only as important as the next person.

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Also crucial is to recognize the importance of others and what they have to offer. Think of it this way: you already know what you know; you can’t learn anything from yourself.

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On the other hand, you don’t already know what other people know. Another person will always have different knowledge and insight, and there is something to learn from everyone.

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It is one of the saddest truths of this world that none of us receives enough praise. Praise and compliments can be very difficult to come by in certain situations.

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When someone does something well, tell them. Shower people with praise; they will not only appreciate it, but they will also value the fact that you paid enough attention to notice their actions.

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Check your attitude -

Adopting and maintaining a positive attitude is important if you want to be charismatic. Remember that your attitude not only affects the way that you feel, but also the way others feel.

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Check your attitude -

Rather than moaning that you “have” to go to a meeting, consider it an opportunity to go and meet new people. Sometimes using the right words can go a long way.

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Don't gossip -

Gossip can be fun, but it is the charismatic person’s downfall. Try to avoid talking about people behind their back, particularly when it comes to their failings or shortcomings.

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Gossip may be entertaining, but we don’t normally respect those people who dish out all the dirt. Laughing at another person’s expense makes people wonder if you laugh at them, too.

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Admit your failures -

Another quality that charismatic people often exhibit is a readiness to laugh at themselves and their mistakes. This is a character trait that will warm people to you quickly.

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Being ready to acknowledge your own failures and laughing them off from time to time will make you seem more genuine and attractive to those around you.

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Talk with your hands -

This one comes more naturally to some people than others and it may even seem futile to some, but it is a good idea to try and talk with your hands as much as possible.

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Hand gestures are a great way to emphasize meaning and strengthen understanding. Next time you have a meeting or a presentation, make use of your hands as a communication device.

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Be unusual -

Again, this might be easier said than done, but a great way to captivate people is to break the mould. Rather than rely on the same boring small talk, ask an unusual question.

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Questions such as “What was the highlight of your day?” are rarely asked, and when they are people tend to remember the person asking them.

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Use names -

An age-old trick when it comes to making people feel important is to address them by name. Neurological research shows that we humans love to hear our own names.

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Next time you find yourself in conversation, be sure to drop the other person’s name in, perhaps more than once and definitely as you are saying goodbye.

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Find mutuality -

People are often attracted to people they have things in common with. When trying to build relationships with people, look for the common ground.

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Think about experiences or ideas you might have in common. If you can’t think of anything immediately, don’t be afraid to ask questions and dig a little deeper.

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Know yourself -

It may be a less obvious and tangible trait, but charismatic people also know themselves very well. In particular, they are aware of their top three qualities.

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Once you have identified your top three strengths (e.g. kindness, humility, and generosity), try to convey and make use of them in all situations.

Sources: (LinkedIn) (Healthline)

See also: How lucky and unlucky people differ

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