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0 / 30 Fotos
Bad breath
- If you're having a romantic dinner and want to increase your chances of getting lucky afterwards, skip the order of garlic bread.
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1 / 30 Fotos
Smoking
- Similarly, many people find the smell of tobacco on someone's breath, or the smell of smoke lingering on their hair and clothes, to be a massive turnoff.
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2 / 30 Fotos
Unruly nails
- In heteronormative circles, it's generally expected that men will have short and clean nails. While it's acceptable to challenge these norms and opt for a bolder nail appearance, excessively long nails due to poor grooming are definitely not a good look.
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3 / 30 Fotos
Unruly nails
- Finding out that your partner has long, jagged toenails when you're about to undress can be quite a shock. If your feet are in this state, consider treating yourself to a pedicure.
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4 / 30 Fotos
Socks in bed
- Forget about trying to hide the issue by keeping your socks on. Being completely nude besides a pair of socks is a strange, ick-inducing look.
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5 / 30 Fotos
Hygiene
- Personal hygiene is a big one for most people (understandably). A bad body odor, or smelly feet once the shoes come off, can really ruin a romantic moment.
© Shutterstock
6 / 30 Fotos
Dirty sheets
- Similarly, home hygiene is also very important. If the bedroom is a complete mess and their sheets haven't been washed since they left their mother's place, it's disgusting and a big red flag.
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7 / 30 Fotos
Animals in the bedroom
- Allowing pets in the bedroom can be a big turnoff for people. Some animals shed a lot of fur, which may not be embraced by everyone.
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8 / 30 Fotos
Animals in the bedroom
- Even more disturbing, however, is if the pet is allowed in the bedroom while you're sharing an intimate moment. No one needs the disapproving gaze of an old tabby cat during a moment of passion.
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9 / 30 Fotos
The lights
- The matter of whether to keep the lights on or off can spark disagreement, as well as being off-putting for one party. Some people prefer darkness, as they feel more at ease and free from concerns about their physical appearance. If the other partner insists on keeping them on, it could kill the vibe if someone feels uncomfortable.
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10 / 30 Fotos
The lights
- However, if you want to admire your partner in their full glory and don't care about their perceived flaws, it may be exasperating that they prefer the lights off. A middle ground...? Candlelight!
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11 / 30 Fotos
Lack of enthusiasm
- If you've reached the bedroom without encountering any red flags, congrats! However, if one partner just doesn't seem into it, it can really take the wind out of the sails.
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12 / 30 Fotos
Talking about an ex
- Bringing up an ex during a first date is usually a bad move, but bringing them up in the bedroom is something else. Open communication about sex is great, but mentioning specific past experiences should be avoided. Starting a sentence with "My ex really liked it when..." is not the way to start a sentence.
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13 / 30 Fotos
Lack of boundaries
- Several women have shared experiences where their male partners fail to respect their boundaries. Whether they express a desire to try something new or want to do it without protection, the initial refusal should be enough. It's uncomfortable and irritating when the partner repeatedly asks, "are you sure you don't want to try?" Needless to say, this behavior really gives the ick.
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14 / 30 Fotos
Save it for Broadway
- When your partner seems to have picked up their moves from watching adult films online, it doesn't end well. Be it excessive vocal expressions or jack-hammer movements, the performance doesn't get a top rating.
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15 / 30 Fotos
Repositioning
- Some women reported that men often feel the need to be highly athletic, frequently switching positions in bed. This might be another behavior learned online that's for entertainment purposes, and doesn't translate to actual intimate situations.
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16 / 30 Fotos
Faking it
- Many men claim its upsetting when they suspect their partner is faking it. It's disheartening, and also suggests communication issues in the relationship, which reduces the enjoyment for both people.
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17 / 30 Fotos
Too much talk
- A little dirty talk is harmless, but if you're not into it or it's incessant, it could really ruin the experience for the other person.
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18 / 30 Fotos
Too much talk
- This isn't the only way too much talking can show up in the bedroom. In long-term relationships, if one partner brings up an unrelated subject while you're doing the deed, such as who's picking the kids up from school the next day, it can really impact the experience negatively.
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19 / 30 Fotos
Distraction
- Have you ever been in bed with someone and noticed them glancing at the clock? Or maybe they seem compelled to check their phone whenever it buzzes? These actions clearly indicate they're not exactly engrossed in the present.
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20 / 30 Fotos
Body insecurity
- Confidence is universally appealing. It's important to remember that you don't need to have a "perfect" body. It's hot when someone is able to let go of their insecurities and go all in.
© iStock
21 / 30 Fotos
Body insecurity
- If you sense that your partner is worried about their appearance, the issue isn't about their looks, but the fact they don't seem to be present and enjoying themselves. Sadly, this can be quite a big turnoff.
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22 / 30 Fotos
Lack of attention
- If you're not enjoying yourself and your partner is oblivious, it's an unpleasant feeling. It indicates a lack of attentiveness on their part, and that you don't feel comfortable enough to discuss it with them. Overall—disappointing.
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23 / 30 Fotos
Selfishness
- If someone doesn't reciprocate or show interest in your pleasure (despite expecting to have it all), then it's time to move on.
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24 / 30 Fotos
Repetitive experiences
- Things can become repetitive in long-term relationships, and it's natural. However, if your partner is unwilling to address your concerns and try new things, it can really kill the mood.
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25 / 30 Fotos
Finishing early
- Encounters can follow a set menu, where one parnter reaches their dessert, and the experience concludes, even if the other partner hasn't begun the starter. However, if one partner tends to finish quickly, it doesn't have to be a passion killer—as long as both individuals have the opportunity to enjoy themselves over the course of the evening.
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26 / 30 Fotos
Killing the mood
- For many people, arousal begins long before the bedroom stage. However, things can happen in daily life that make it more difficult to get in the mood for physical intimacy.
© Shutterstock
27 / 30 Fotos
Conversational narcissist
- When you can't get a word in on a date, it often hints at what lies ahead. A person who prioritizes themselves and disregards their partner's words is likely to exhibit the same traits in the bedroom.
© Shutterstock
28 / 30 Fotos
Not helping out
- You might feel undervalued and resentful in your relationship if your partner isn't pulling their weight. These emotions can definitely give you the ick, making it hard to imagine intimacy and affection with them.
Sources: (Marie Claire) (Insider) (Everyday Health)
Check also: Things your partner should never say to you
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29 / 30 Fotos
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0 / 30 Fotos
Bad breath
- If you're having a romantic dinner and want to increase your chances of getting lucky afterwards, skip the order of garlic bread.
© Shutterstock
1 / 30 Fotos
Smoking
- Similarly, many people find the smell of tobacco on someone's breath, or the smell of smoke lingering on their hair and clothes, to be a massive turnoff.
© Shutterstock
2 / 30 Fotos
Unruly nails
- In heteronormative circles, it's generally expected that men will have short and clean nails. While it's acceptable to challenge these norms and opt for a bolder nail appearance, excessively long nails due to poor grooming are definitely not a good look.
© Shutterstock
3 / 30 Fotos
Unruly nails
- Finding out that your partner has long, jagged toenails when you're about to undress can be quite a shock. If your feet are in this state, consider treating yourself to a pedicure.
© Shutterstock
4 / 30 Fotos
Socks in bed
- Forget about trying to hide the issue by keeping your socks on. Being completely nude besides a pair of socks is a strange, ick-inducing look.
© Shutterstock
5 / 30 Fotos
Hygiene
- Personal hygiene is a big one for most people (understandably). A bad body odor, or smelly feet once the shoes come off, can really ruin a romantic moment.
© Shutterstock
6 / 30 Fotos
Dirty sheets
- Similarly, home hygiene is also very important. If the bedroom is a complete mess and their sheets haven't been washed since they left their mother's place, it's disgusting and a big red flag.
© Shutterstock
7 / 30 Fotos
Animals in the bedroom
- Allowing pets in the bedroom can be a big turnoff for people. Some animals shed a lot of fur, which may not be embraced by everyone.
© Shutterstock
8 / 30 Fotos
Animals in the bedroom
- Even more disturbing, however, is if the pet is allowed in the bedroom while you're sharing an intimate moment. No one needs the disapproving gaze of an old tabby cat during a moment of passion.
© Shutterstock
9 / 30 Fotos
The lights
- The matter of whether to keep the lights on or off can spark disagreement, as well as being off-putting for one party. Some people prefer darkness, as they feel more at ease and free from concerns about their physical appearance. If the other partner insists on keeping them on, it could kill the vibe if someone feels uncomfortable.
© Shutterstock
10 / 30 Fotos
The lights
- However, if you want to admire your partner in their full glory and don't care about their perceived flaws, it may be exasperating that they prefer the lights off. A middle ground...? Candlelight!
© Shutterstock
11 / 30 Fotos
Lack of enthusiasm
- If you've reached the bedroom without encountering any red flags, congrats! However, if one partner just doesn't seem into it, it can really take the wind out of the sails.
© Shutterstock
12 / 30 Fotos
Talking about an ex
- Bringing up an ex during a first date is usually a bad move, but bringing them up in the bedroom is something else. Open communication about sex is great, but mentioning specific past experiences should be avoided. Starting a sentence with "My ex really liked it when..." is not the way to start a sentence.
© Shutterstock
13 / 30 Fotos
Lack of boundaries
- Several women have shared experiences where their male partners fail to respect their boundaries. Whether they express a desire to try something new or want to do it without protection, the initial refusal should be enough. It's uncomfortable and irritating when the partner repeatedly asks, "are you sure you don't want to try?" Needless to say, this behavior really gives the ick.
© Shutterstock
14 / 30 Fotos
Save it for Broadway
- When your partner seems to have picked up their moves from watching adult films online, it doesn't end well. Be it excessive vocal expressions or jack-hammer movements, the performance doesn't get a top rating.
© Shutterstock
15 / 30 Fotos
Repositioning
- Some women reported that men often feel the need to be highly athletic, frequently switching positions in bed. This might be another behavior learned online that's for entertainment purposes, and doesn't translate to actual intimate situations.
© Shutterstock
16 / 30 Fotos
Faking it
- Many men claim its upsetting when they suspect their partner is faking it. It's disheartening, and also suggests communication issues in the relationship, which reduces the enjoyment for both people.
© Shutterstock
17 / 30 Fotos
Too much talk
- A little dirty talk is harmless, but if you're not into it or it's incessant, it could really ruin the experience for the other person.
© Shutterstock
18 / 30 Fotos
Too much talk
- This isn't the only way too much talking can show up in the bedroom. In long-term relationships, if one partner brings up an unrelated subject while you're doing the deed, such as who's picking the kids up from school the next day, it can really impact the experience negatively.
© Shutterstock
19 / 30 Fotos
Distraction
- Have you ever been in bed with someone and noticed them glancing at the clock? Or maybe they seem compelled to check their phone whenever it buzzes? These actions clearly indicate they're not exactly engrossed in the present.
© Shutterstock
20 / 30 Fotos
Body insecurity
- Confidence is universally appealing. It's important to remember that you don't need to have a "perfect" body. It's hot when someone is able to let go of their insecurities and go all in.
© iStock
21 / 30 Fotos
Body insecurity
- If you sense that your partner is worried about their appearance, the issue isn't about their looks, but the fact they don't seem to be present and enjoying themselves. Sadly, this can be quite a big turnoff.
© Shutterstock
22 / 30 Fotos
Lack of attention
- If you're not enjoying yourself and your partner is oblivious, it's an unpleasant feeling. It indicates a lack of attentiveness on their part, and that you don't feel comfortable enough to discuss it with them. Overall—disappointing.
© Shutterstock
23 / 30 Fotos
Selfishness
- If someone doesn't reciprocate or show interest in your pleasure (despite expecting to have it all), then it's time to move on.
© Shutterstock
24 / 30 Fotos
Repetitive experiences
- Things can become repetitive in long-term relationships, and it's natural. However, if your partner is unwilling to address your concerns and try new things, it can really kill the mood.
© Shutterstock
25 / 30 Fotos
Finishing early
- Encounters can follow a set menu, where one parnter reaches their dessert, and the experience concludes, even if the other partner hasn't begun the starter. However, if one partner tends to finish quickly, it doesn't have to be a passion killer—as long as both individuals have the opportunity to enjoy themselves over the course of the evening.
© Shutterstock
26 / 30 Fotos
Killing the mood
- For many people, arousal begins long before the bedroom stage. However, things can happen in daily life that make it more difficult to get in the mood for physical intimacy.
© Shutterstock
27 / 30 Fotos
Conversational narcissist
- When you can't get a word in on a date, it often hints at what lies ahead. A person who prioritizes themselves and disregards their partner's words is likely to exhibit the same traits in the bedroom.
© Shutterstock
28 / 30 Fotos
Not helping out
- You might feel undervalued and resentful in your relationship if your partner isn't pulling their weight. These emotions can definitely give you the ick, making it hard to imagine intimacy and affection with them.
Sources: (Marie Claire) (Insider) (Everyday Health)
Check also: Things your partner should never say to you
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29 / 30 Fotos
The biggest turnoffs in the bedroom
Which habits are the most likely to kill the mood?
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We all have personal triggers that can ignite a spark within us or instantly kill the mood. Some of these triggers are weirdly specific and unique to us, while others are pretty common. Through a combination of surveys and online comments, we've compiled a list of the most common turnoffs in both serious, long-term relationships and for those having a one-night fling.
Are you guilty of any of these? Take a look at the gallery below to uncover some of the major bedroom turnoffs.
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