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Bad breath -

If you’re going for a romantic dinner and are hoping to get lucky, don’t order the garlic bread.

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Smoking -

On that same note, many people get turned off by tobacco breath or the smell of smoke on someone's hair and clothes.

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Unruly nails -

In heteronormative circles, a man’s nails are expected to be short and clean. It’s one thing to shake up the binary and go for a more daring nail look, but if they're simply too long because of a lack of grooming, it’s not a good look.

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Unruly nails -

There’s no worse surprise than getting to the point of disrobing and discovering that your partner has long, jagged talons for toenails. Get thee to a nail salon and get thyself a pedicure!

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Socks in bed -

On the other hand, keeping your socks on won’t help the problem! Being totally naked except for a pair of socks is just not a good look…

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Hygiene -

Personal hygiene is a major one for most people. An unpleasant body odor can really pull you out of a moment of passion! Or smelly feet once the shoes come off…

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Dirty sheets -

The same goes for hygiene in the home. If the bedroom is a pigsty and their sheets haven’t been washed since they moved out of their mother’s house, it’s both gross and a major red flag for the future!

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Animals in the bedroom -

Many people report that allowing pets in the bedroom is a big turnoff. Someone who lets their cat or dog sleep on their bed is likely to have a lot of animal hair around, which not everyone can get used to.

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What’s worse, though, is when the pet is allowed in the bedroom while you’re getting busy! No one wants to look down in a moment of passion and see a judgmental old tabby cat giving them the stink eye.

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The lights -

The issue of turning the lights on or off is a contentious one, and can be a turnoff regardless of which option you prefer. Some people prefer to go with the lights off so they can enjoy themselves more without worrying about their body insecurities. Having a partner who insists on turning them on could certainly kill the vibe and make you feel less comfortable.

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The lights -

On the other hand, if you want to see your partner in all their glory and don’t care about their perceived imperfections, it can be frustrating that they always want the lights off. How about a compromise then? Candlelight!

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Lack of enthusiasm -

If you’ve made it as far as the bedroom without any red flags, well done! However, if one partner just doesn’t seem that into it, it kind of takes the wind out of the sails.

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Talking about an ex -

Talking about an ex on a first date is usually not a good move, but if they come up in bedroom conversation, that’s so much worse! It’s good to communicate about sex, but try not to reference specific past experiences. “My ex really liked it when…” is not a good way to start a sentence!

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Lack of boundaries -

Many women have reported experiences with male partners who don’t respect their boundaries. Whether they want their partner to do something new or are asking to do it without protection, the first “no” should be enough. It’s uncomfortable and annoying if they keep asking “are you sure you don’t want to try?” Needless to say, it’s a major turnoff.

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Save it for Broadway -

When your partner seems to have learned all their moves from watching adult movies online, it never ends well. Whether it’s over-the-top screaming and moaning, or jack-hammer moves, the performance does not get five stars.

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Changing position -

Another issue some women report is that men often feel like they need to be super athletic and constantly change positions in bed. This might be another strange habit they learned online, which is perhaps better for entertainment purposes than real life.

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Faking it - Many men reported that it’s a major turnoff when they suspect their partner is faking it. Not only is it a little disheartening, it also suggests that there isn’t an open dialogue in the relationship, which is taking away from the enjoyment for both parties.

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Too much talking -

A little bit of dirty talk never hurt anyone, but if it’s constant (particularly if you don’t like what they’re saying) then it can really ruin the experience.

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Too much talking -

There’s another way that too much talking can be a problem in the bedroom, but this usually affects long-term relationships more. One partner might bring up a totally unrelated issue while you’re in the middle of doing the deed, like who’s going to pick the kids up from school tomorrow. Not good!

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Distraction -

Have you ever been in bed with someone and caught them looking at the clock? Or perhaps they insist on stopping to check their phone when they hear it buzz. That’s a definite sign that they're not exactly getting lost in the moment.

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Body insecurity - We all find confidence sexy. While we might not all have 'perfect' bodies, the reality is that you don’t need one. If you’re able to let go of your insecurities and go all-in, that’s hot!

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Body insecurity -

When you’re with someone and you can feel that they’re worrying about how they look, the issue is not their physical appearance, it’s the fact that they’re not fully present and not fully enjoying themselves. Unfortunately, that’s a big turnoff.

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Lack of attention -

If you’re not fully enjoying yourself and your partner doesn’t notice, it’s not a great feeling. It’s a sign that they’re not being attentive, and also perhaps that you’re not feeling comfortable enough with them to communicate about it. Thumbs down all around.

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Selfishness -

Someone who expects to have it all but doesn’t return the favor or seem interested in your pleasure—thank you, next.

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Repetitive experiences -

Sometimes when we’re with the same partner for a long time, things can get a bit repetitive. That’s normal and natural, but if your partner isn’t willing to hear your concerns and try something new, then it’s an even bigger mood killer.

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Finishing early -

Sex sometimes comes with a set menu, and when the man has finished his dessert, it’s over, even if their partner has barely finished their starter. If one partner has a tendency to finish early, it doesn’t have to be a big deal as long as everyone has a chance to enjoy themselves!

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Killing the mood -

For many people, sex starts long before they get to the bedroom. There are things that can happen on dates or in your daily life at home that make it very difficult to get in the mood.

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Conversational narcissist - When you’re on a date and you can’t get a word in, it’s usually a foreshadowing of what’s to come! Someone who is more focused on themselves and doesn’t listen to their date is likely to bring those traits into the bedroom.

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Not helping out -

If you’re in a long-term relationship and your partner isn’t pulling their weight, it can leave you feeling underappreciated and resentful. It’s pretty difficult to overlook those feelings and get to a place of affection and intimacy.

Sources: (Marie Claire) (Insider) (Everyday Health)

See also: How to be a more thoughtful and generous partner in your relationship

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